Friday, 6 September 2013

My mum sent me a card?????

Well yesterday my parents celebrated their Diamond Wedding, 60 years! I had been planning things in the background for months. It appeared effortless on the day. Carer brought dad out of home to venue. Mum flapped so much she forgot her tights!!! Mini bus arrived without step so me and my eldest son lifted her into the mini bus, and out again! Without showing her drawers! It was really nice to see them together in a "normal" setting. Usual family scuffles ensued, what is a family meal without distant cousins fighting??? Not really, every one got on. But dad sat there, said hello to old friends, knew who they were and even cracked a few jokes, but ....... He didn't recognise any of his grandchildren. My children were very close all night as another grandparent died just before we left for the celebration. They hovered round those that are left, my eldest got asked numerous times if he was a waiter???? No I'm her grandson. Oh the joy of dining with an ageing population. I introduced dad to his 18 year old grandson. He had no recognition, then stared at me and asked why I hadn't told him I was pregnant! I hope he doesn't mean now??? He did however remember the old friends there and it was nice to see him so social. My highlight was showing him the message from the Queen, this is now a card with the Queen on the front. He looked, and said why has my mother sent me a card? Then winked at me to let me know he knew who it was. Of course my mum got all huffy and said it's the Queen. Something's never change. However, I feel I have to comment on his appetite. He started eating at 6 and did not stop until 9. He ate every last scrap on his plate, smiled chatted and even managed to cut the cake. It was a really good night , but also sad. No not just because of the demise of a grandma but because of the demise of my children's grandad. He will ever remember the joy he brought when they were young, daft grandad, but they will remember for just this reason, he doesn't know who they are. However after watch him eat, as for my post being Dementia ate my dad, last night he ate it right back!!!!!

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