Fighting over Ferraro !

Dad has been in a care home since last March. He has advanced vascular dementia. The care home has been closed since new year due to norovirus, well closed to visitors. So today is the first time I have seen home for three weeks. We arrived and he was missing. Not in his usual spot I went looking for him. He was sat all on his lonesome in the dining room. He said he couldn't leave as every time he tried to they told him to finish his brew. Plus he hadn't had his dinner, sorry that's Wigan for lunch. He flatly refused to move, eventually my mum came and found us. He had no idea we had not been, no idea where he was, whether he had eaten, what he was doing. I then had 20 minutes of him getting cross about the people not coming to his table to get the next job? People had been bringing him things all morning to fix and he was tired, everytime he fixes them they just break them again. Yes, random, bizarre comments. He is so much worse. Mum had taken him some chocolates, he unwrapped on and placed it on the table. He then proceeded to play table football with it for the next 15 minutes, quite funny really. Every two minutes my mum would tell him to eat it, he would smile at me and flick it across the table. It really , really annoyed her. "eat the chocolate it's aggravating me" she said, all the time smiling in case the care workers heard Her shouting. He didn't and just messed about. I spoke to the carers and he is sleeping excessively, says me who had a nap when I got home, but he is falling asleep whilst eating now. He fell asleep twice whilst we were there. Does anyone know is this common in dementia??? Mum still thinks he is putting it on, I'm convinced. But every now and agin there are moments of brilliant cruelty. Just before we left mum said everyone had been asking how he was. His response, do you tell them you put me in an old folks home!!! Two minutes earlier he thought he was at home. So the nasty side of dementia is finally surfacing. I don't expect things will change this year. Every week he will ask me how many children I have, who's' dogs are on my phone and have I got new shoes??. Have a great year everyone and remember It's not your fault!!!!!