Mum does not want to visit Saturday, no mention of going twice ! I get a feeling we go so she can tell friends she has been. However that is harsh, she misses him terribly, and is lost without him that explains why we spend three hours choosing a plant for him Saturday.
87. A great achievement, but he didn't know it was his birthday. His condition worsens every week, but this week was really bad, bad tempered at times, talking nonsense. Utter rubbish really!!! I never thought I would write a card that explains who every one is, your grandson aged 18 at Manchester uni son of ....... Was pretty much it. He seemed to take in what was written and this made him confused and angry. The suggestions to explain who and what everyone is didn't work then. I'll stick to usual photos and simple explanations in future.
I also find she getting fat remarks slightly offensive, yes I am but that happens years ago! To be reminded does not help , thanks dad.
But I sat there the thinking what would birthdays have meant in the past? He never really bothered. No deal was made of birthdays in our house, they just happened. That is why, in my opinion, he associates no importance with them. Even Christmas was limited to "after breakfast". However I then thought about the tunes he would play as he did like music, englebert, Julio and lots of others, but his favorite was always James Last. The one I remember was trumpet a go go. A classic that he would bop away to. So I choose to remember him as the party boy who was fun and danced, not the miserable old man that insults my weight and family as he did at weekend!!!
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