Those diamonds are starting to twinkle

The last few weeks have seen a massive deterioration in my dads memory, so much so ,that at times I think he is taking the mick. Some days are better than others but I now have a mother who is really unwell and that demise has been much more rapid than his. She is suffering from what I like to call careers lag. She reached the point of exhaustion that it affected her physically and mentally. The once ideas person of the family has in three months turned into an old lady, a really old lady. Her stance , speed of thought, general well being...... scream I'm old. Until four years ago she played 18 holes of golf each week at 80+. But the horizon is bright, in fact it is like a Swarovski crystal or even better. Yes it's just over two months to their diamond wedding anniversary. I have volunteered to organise. A local restaurant has been more than helpful, I need a copy of the wedding cert for a secret mission, I have a cover story, and the place that he now lives have an advert out for a carer to accompany him. But what I can't get is that she still does not accept he has a memory a goldfish would be proud of. It's sad that seeing him week after week, she flatly refuses to acknowledge that this is not going to get better So I made a decision, give her the party she wants, I know the normal dad always loved a party. I will get good food , good friends, and make her feel special. Yes my patience will be tried. Dementia is crap, not so much for those with it , but for those watching, but maybe I'm just selfish!