Almost a year on

It's been almost one year since dementia ate by dad. We all still miss him and think of him, but we now look back and laugh at his antics. I have not posted for almost a year, however I am watching Demetiaville and so wish he had been in a setting like this. Taking people back and accepting their memory. 

I had many a conversation about houses he built 30 plus, sorry 50 years ago as if he was on site. A common question was always have you got the car? When I asked why, he would always say ... I need it to get the lads wages. At first I used to try to bring him to the present, then I realised go with it. I then got to saying I got them this morning like you told me, this settled him. This programme shows a level of care that is so reassuring for people with the condition, and that what matters. Not how the family feel but making the person feel good. However my mum always found this frustrating. And he confusion I now put down to her condition.

I know some may not agree. But in my dotage, I hope people indulge me and make me feel happy, reassured and safe. Even if that means stepping back in time.

I now face a more puzzling challenge in another parent, paraphrenia. Now there is a can of worms worthy of a whole new chapter.